STEREOTYPES

The stereotypical image of an ex-care home kid normally singles them out as being a deeply troubled individual, destined to live out the remainder of their lives in the shadowy world of alcohol/drug abuse and petty crime.

This is partly true, as many care leavers, do of course leave the care system and end up drifting aimlessly, living hand to mouth on the fringes of society.

Some end up in prison, some disappear completely and some have even died before their time.

But that could also be said about any number of people.

A marriage breakup, an episode of mental illness, an accident or the loss of a job or home, has led to many people ending up in a similar situation.

I personally know more than a few who came through the care system, before going onto further education and beyond.

I am still in touch with some of them.

A boxer who won medals at both the Commonwealth and Olympic games, going on to a successful career as a professional middleweight, he now owns a gym with an enviable stable of fighters in Perth in western Australia.

A lawyer, who is partner at a lucrative criminal law practice in Cardiff, another who excelled at medical school and now works as a Consultant ENT specialist at a Northampton teaching Hospital.

A Veterinarian with a large practice in Carmarthenshire, and a Structural Engineer who now plies his trade in the Middle East, where he heads a multi-million dollar project overseen by the Ministry of Defence.

Many, many care leavers, have gone on to lead very full and successful lives, making their mark on the world in their own unique way.

Here are some you may recognise.

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Goldie grew up in care in the West Midlands. He is now a world famous DJ, who popularised drum ‘n’ bass music. In 1995, he released the album Timeless, which went straight into the Top Ten. He is also a skilled break dancer and graffiti artist.

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Marilyn Monroe is the biggest female Hollywood icon of the last century. Starring in films, such as Gentlemen Prefer Blondes and Some Like It Hot. She grew up in a series of foster homes. She died at the young age of 36.

Paelo Hewitt

Paolo Hewitt is an accomplished former NME Journalist and biographer of The Small Faces, The Jam and Oasis. He lived in care from an early age and has written a book called ‘The Looked After Kid’ about his experiences in care.

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Kriss Akabusi is famous for his athletic achievements and won Gold in the 1990 European Championships. As a child, he spent time in children’s homes and also had numerous foster placements. since retiring from competitive sports, he has been involved in commentating, TV presenting and motivational speaking. He was awarded an MBE in 1992.

fatima whitbread

Fatima Whitbread is a former javelin world champion and competed in the 1978 Commonwealth Games at age 17. She set a world record in 1986 and became world champion in 1987. Fatima spent the first 14 years of her life in children’s homes.

paul barber

Paul Barber is a British actor from Liverpool, most famous for his roles in tv show Only Fools and Horses and the British Film, The Full Monty. He entered the care system in Merseyside at age seven. In 2007 he published a book, called ‘Foster Kid,’ about his upbringing in foster homes.

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Malcolm X was one of the most prominent black nationalist leaders in the USA during the civil rights movement. He was also a spokesperson for the Nation of Islam. He spent part of his childhood in foster homes and also in a detention centre.

samantha morton

Samantha Morton started acting at age 13 and has become a Hollywood star, playing opposite Tom Cruise in Minority Report. Samantha spent her childhood in children’s homes and foster homes in Nottinghamshire.

seal

Seal is a world famous singer and was the most popular soul artist of the 1990s. He has had many hit singles, including Kiss From A Rose, which was the theme for Batman Forever. He was privately fostered until the age of four.

neil morrissey

Neil Morrissey is most famous for his role of Tony in the hit TV series,Men Behaving Badly. He has also performed on stage in the West End. He spent seven years in care, from age 10 to 17, most of which was in children’s homes.

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Lemn Sissay is a professional poet, author and playwright, who has performed across the UK and overseas. Lemn was placed into care from birth and has spent much of his adult life in search of his birth family.

Fashinu

John Fashanu is a television presenter and former professional footballer. He was born in Kensington, London, the son of a Nigerian barrister living in the UK. When his parents split up he was sent, together with his older brother Justin to a Barnardo’s home. When he was five, he and his brother were fostered by Alf and Betty Jackson and were brought up in Shropham near Attleborough, Norfolk.

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CARE LEAVERS

8 thoughts on “STEREOTYPES

  1. It’s always good to hear success stories. I don’t know the backgrounds of every person above, but for some, like Fatima, I believe that her saving grace was having a teacher who truly believed in her & helped her out of her miserable life. That seems to be the thing that turns peoples lives around, having 1 good person who takes these people under their wing. Wish it could be the same for everyone.

    1. Not sure if you’ve checked again Old Git but site has had ‘probs’ but he’s back on again now…..his new article on the McCanns is interesting!

  2. We’ve a poor view of care leavers but even they don’t get many chances. My nephew was long term fostered from 18mths old and took our family name. He got decent exam results, served his apprenticeship and now has a trade. His (foster) mum was told he was the first kid in the area to complete school and get ANY exams and also the first one to get an apprenticeship. We’re definitely failing the kids.

    1. Absolutely. Most kids who come through the system are not bad, they just need the right support and opportunities. They will never fail to surprise you.

  3. If you set alight to an animal, does that mean you are an arsonist or just an evil a hole? Or both perhaps? 😉

  4. Oh & 1 more thing – having worked at the DWP for almost 7 years, 1 of the things that we really couldn’t abide were those career alcoholics that came in for their girocheques every week having made the choice to be useless lazy waste of space piss heads. No reason to be, apart from it got them out of working. I’ve met more than my fair share of those.

    Obviously this does not apply to those who turned to drink and drugs due to serious traumatic lives or experiences that they felt they could not cope with & used drugs or alcohol to numb the pain.

    I expect the lazy, benefit scrounging version of the lazy useless type are still blagging the DWP for money & are still getting away with it. The Government did say they were going to put a halt to this type of proper benefit scrounger though. Can only hope.

  5. I’m glad that you mentioned non famous successful ex care home kids in this piece, although I dare say that has been lost on the less intelligent stalker type 😀 Some people could do with some remedial reading lessons. Would be very difficult, say if they wanted to do a REAL degree course if they were incapable of reading the basics, let alone the complicated detail. Whoops!

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